My husband was admitted to a rehab facility for abuse of prescription medication and alcoholism and also to try to quit smoking weed because they all go together as any addict knows. He is in a very angry state right now though and the past two days when he calls he just gets very upset with me and acts pretty much like a smart a$$. To give you an example last night was ok… I told him I found out I had strep throat and I had been puking because of all the sinus drainage im having as well ( some kind of virus on top of it) he didn’t really say anything about it… we just kinda moved on in the conversation. This morning he called me while I was at work and I had just puked all over my desk and he said whats up and I said, well I just puked again… His response: SOoo, you want a cookie or something? (Like as in do you feel special because of that). I said, umm no and he responded with "we are supposed to be talking about me, not you." I proceeded to ask him, so how are you doing? and he said "DO NOT ASK ME THAT!!!" very sternly. So I tried to move on I was just kind of ignoring his bull **** because I know why he is acting that way. He is mad because the medicines are not giving him a buzz anymore– thats a quote. So I mentioned Christmas (he gets to come home for Chrismas) I said so your mom is wanting to do their christmas thing on Christmas day in the evening instead of going to your grandmas house and he got extremely upset about it saying all he wanted to do was see his family and I said well maybe it’d be a good idea because your grandmas house will be full of people trying to get you to use and he said YOU DON’T NEED TO GIVE ME ADVICE OR TELL ME WHAT TO DO. I talked to his counselor who said he has not shown commitment to the program thus far and they are still working vigilently with him on this and that if I recieve phone calls like that from him I am to tell him I am not going to be talked to that way and hang up. I called my mother in law and told her all this and she offered to pick up my daughter from daycare today and take her home for the night so I can get some stuff done around the house and i told her there was no extra clothes or anything for her to take at daycare and she said we have all kinda of stuff here from goodwill we can put her in, but saturday during visitation he asked me, the next time you bring her could you put her in something a little nicer??? I just can’t take on all the responsibilities plus him being a jerk to me right now… I don’t know what to do. Any advice on this situation would be helpful… Im so sad…
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inappropriate calls from husband in rehab?
My husband was admitted to a rehab facility for abuse of prescription medication and alcoholism and also to try to quit smoking weed because they all go together as any addict knows. He is in a very angry state right now though and the past two days when he calls he just gets very upset with me and acts pretty much like a smart a$$. To give you an example last night was ok… I told him I found out I had strep throat and I had been puking because of all the sinus drainage im having as well ( some kind of virus on top of it) he didn’t really say anything about it… we just kinda moved on in the conversation. This morning he called me while I was at work and I had just puked all over my desk and he said whats up and I said, well I just puked again… His response: SOoo, you want a cookie or something? (Like as in do you feel special because of that). I said, umm no and he responded with "we are supposed to be talking about me, not you." I proceeded to ask him, so how are you doing? and he said "DO NOT ASK ME THAT!!!" very sternly. So I tried to move on I was just kind of ignoring his bull shit because I know why he is acting that way. He is mad because the medicines are not giving him a buzz anymore– thats a quote. So I mentioned Christmas (he gets to come home for Chrismas) I said so your mom is wanting to do their christmas thing on Christmas day in the evening instead of going to your grandmas house and he got extremely upset about it saying all he wanted to do was see his family and I said well maybe it’d be a good idea because your grandmas house will be full of people trying to get you to use and he said YOU DON’T NEED TO GIVE ME ADVICE OR TELL ME WHAT TO DO. I talked to his counselor who said he has not shown commitment to the program thus far and they are still working vigilently with him on this and that if I recieve phone calls like that from him I am to tell him I am not going to be talked to that way and hang up. I called my mother in law and told her all this and she offered to pick up my daughter from daycare today and take her home for the night so I can get some stuff done around the house and i told her there was no extra clothes or anything for her to take at daycare and she said we have all kinda of stuff here from goodwill we can put her in, but saturday during visitation he asked me, the next time you bring her could you put her in something a little nicer??? I just can’t take on all the responsibilities plus him being a jerk to me right now… I don’t know what to do. Any advice on this situation would be helpful… Im so sad…
Christmas is becoming a burden….what should I do?
Cristmas is the 12nd time like this: stressful and nerve racking! My whole family is screaming at each other, yelling, being stubborn, and nervous. We can’t get a long! It’s been a week and with hte ice storm and cleaning the lawn, baking cookies, getting presents, setting up the tree, cleaning the house, perparing plans for the new year, cooking Christmas dinner and all the holidday buzz it is just getting unbearable!
Everyone in my family now views Chrismas as the biggest obstacle of the year adn I don’t want it to be like that. The problem is, if one person sees it this way we all do. How should make it more fun and pleasurable for everyone???? I mean this year we got a teeny tiny tree and put maybe 20 ornaments on it all together just ofr the sake of having a tree. And we ididn’t even decorate it all together. Just me and my sister.
I don’t knolw what to do??? Any ideas?